P.S. As a believer, I do not always agree with the statements that some "Christians" offer us as bereaved parents, such as "God has a plan" or any statement that starts with "At least..." or something like "God let this happen to teach us..."
Do I believe that God has a plan? Of course. But do I like hearing that from someone else when it comes to my baby dying? No, I'll just take my baby, thank you. Forget the plan! I'm not sure that Christians understand that these statements, especially to someone who doesn't believe in God, just push God further away. And no one likes to hear that at least we can have other babies, or at least we have other children or at least blah blah blah. I'm sure all these types of "Christian" statements are meant well, and not intended to hurt but to help.
I think God can work good from bad. I think He can take heartache and turn it into amazing, beautiful love. I think He does have a plan, but that's because my baby died, that He can make something wonderful out of something so terrible. Did He let this happen? I don't even know how to answer that, as a person of faith. I do know that He will help me through it, help me understand it, and help me use it to become a better person.
My hope in saying all this is, that if you are reading this and "on the fence" about faith or God or Jesus, please don't let the insensitive things that Christian people may offer you turn you away. Seek Him out yourself, and I am positive you will find peace and relief. Remember that humans in general may say things that make them feel better about the situation, because their hearts are in the right place and they want to help, even though it may not be helpful. I know it's very hard for someone who has not experienced this specific grief to figure out what the heck to say to us. I hope that makes sense! I'm not great at talking about this stuff, but I really wanted to get that out into the grieving parent world. Jesus loves you, and can and will get you through this, all you have to do is ask, and forget about everything else!